June 21, 2024


The Business & Finance guru

Most Common Money Lies in Relationships

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Issues with finances can be a major hurdle in romantic relationships, with nearly a third (30%) of couples dealing with financial infidelity in the past year, according to a recent survey from U.S. News & World Report.

Similar to romantic infidelity, financial infidelity is when a partner deliberately chooses not to tell the truth, but in this case it regards something around money.

While financial infidelity can certainly take on several forms, the survey findings identified that the biggest money-related lies that came up in relationships were secretive purchases (31.4%), hiding debts (28.7%) and dishonesty about income (22.6%).

These numbers help paint a bigger picture of how strong of an impact money has in our partnerships. A key part in overcoming lying to your spouse about the huge amount of credit card debt you may have, or your partner being dishonest about how much money they really make, is to get a better understanding of your own, and each other’s personal finance management skills.

“Couples are likely to have varying levels of financial literacy,” Beverly Harzog, credit card expert at U.S. News & World Report, tells Select. “The important thing is that they grow together and are able to make compromises when it comes to budgeting and spending. There are so many resources available for increasing your financial knowledge, such as books, websites and free apps.”

In short, being well-versed together in how your money works and where your money goes can help you avoid any financial infidelity down the line. From chipping away at debt, to being proactive about budgeting, it’s vital to take advantage of resources to get on the same page with each other.

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There’s a strong correlation between financial infidelity and major debt loads

For many couples, carrying the weight of debt can make or break a relationship — especially when one partner doesn’t know about the other’s financial burden.

According to the U.S. News survey, over half of couples who experienced financial infidelity also happened to be in major debt. On the flip side, of those who didn’t experience financial infidelity, only 22.7% were in debt.

Tackling your debt, or at least talking openly about it with your partner, is a good first step in getting on the same page. “Couples need to be in agreement when it comes to debt reduction,” Harzog says. “You’re setting a joint financial goal and you need to work together to make it happen.”

What to do if you or your partner has credit card debt

“Most major [credit card] issuers do have apps to help you track spending,” Harzog says. “If you still have a very good credit score, consider using a balance transfer credit card to get out of debt. Once you choose a strategy for getting rid of debt, decrease expenses to help you reach your goal.”

Balance transfer cards offer no interest on balance transfers for a set period of time — usually for at least six months and up to 21 months. During the introductory 0% APR period, you can pay off debt without paying costly interest charges. For example, both the Citi® Diamond Preferred® Card and the Citi Simplicity® Card offer an introductory 0% APR for 21 months on balance transfers from the date of the first transfer (after, a 13.74% to 23.74% variable APR on the Citi Diamond Preferred and a 14.74% to 24.74% variable APR on the Citi Simplicity). All transfers must be completed in the first 4 months. The balance transfer fee for each card is $5 or 5% of the amount of the transfer, whichever is greater.

Citi Simplicity® Card

  • Rewards

  • Welcome bonus

  • Annual fee

  • Intro APR

    0% for 21 months on balance transfers; 0% for 12 months on purchases

  • Regular APR

    14.74% to 24.74% variable

  • Balance transfer fee

    5% of each balance transfer; $5 minimum

  • Foreign transaction fee

  • Credit needed

Another good option that lets you also earn cash back on your spending is the Citi® Double Cash Card. This card offers zero interest on balance transfers for the first 18 months (after, 13.99% to 23.99% variable APR). Cardholders earn 2% cash back on all eligible purchases (1% when they buy and an additional 1% after they pay their credit card bill). Keep in mind that once the 0% APR intro period is up, interest will kick in, so you want to make sure you pay off your balance within that interest-free time.

Citi® Double Cash Card

  • Rewards

    2% cash back: 1% on all eligible purchases and an additional 1% after you pay your credit card bill

  • Welcome bonus

  • Annual fee

  • Intro APR

    0% for the first 18 months on balance transfers; N/A for purchases

  • Regular APR

    13.99% – 23.99% variable on purchases and balance transfers

  • Balance transfer fee

    For balance transfers completed within 4 months of account opening, an intro balance transfer fee of 3% of each transfer ($5 minimum) applies; after that, a balance transfer fee of 5% of each transfer ($5 minimum) applies

  • Foreign transaction fee

  • Credit needed

What to do if you or your partner has student loans

Does your spouse need some motivation to finally make a dent in their student loan debt?

Apps like Chipper have a special round-ups feature that allows users to chip away at their student loans by applying the spare change from their everyday purchases. This tool, which is to be used on top of users making the minimum monthly payment on their student loans, will make sure you are constantly putting money toward your loans without having to think much about it.

Chipper can also help you or your partner draw out a strategy to pay off student loans by connecting the user to forgiveness programs and income-driven repayment plans to potentially help lower the monthly payments.

For private student loan borrowers, it’s worth considering refinancing your student loans for a lower interest rate — especially now with the expectation that we’ll see rate increases come March. When you refinance your student loans, you get a chance at scoring a lower rate, plus you can extend or shorten your loan term depending on how quickly you want to pay off your loans. This could make your monthly payments more manageable and save you money in the long run.

SoFi Student Loan Refinancing is a great option for borrowers looking to refinance at a lower rate while also having some protections should something in their financial situation change. To get even better refinancing terms or lower rates, applicants with a lower credit score can also apply with a co-signer.

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